yes (via steepyoursoul)
E.E. Cummings (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Haruki Murakami (via hqlines)
One day, you’re going to
stop leaving the door open
for people who only know how
to keep leaving.
Yasmin Z, We’re All Still Learning (via larmoyante)
all i want is an apartment in a city and a decent job, a dog, wifi and a tv, and someone to have sex with
J.K. Rowling (via kushandwizdom)
When you fall in love, you will finally understand why storms are named after people.
1. A girl can lose feelings for you over night.
2. A kiss can be just that, a kiss. Completely meaningless.
3. Love can be one sided but I still wonder if that is love at all
4. Never beg for someone to stay or to love you. You shouldn’t have to beg for someone to be a part of your life or to love you. You deserve better than that.
5. Stop breaking your ribs to make space for those who do not belong there.
6. Learning to breathe again is harder than the doctors said it would be.
7. I don’t know what hurts more at night; being alone or being in love.
8. Laying with someone in bed at night is temporary. It won’t get rid of the lonely. You will still wake up and leave in the morning with a heavy heart and no hand to hold.
9. Sometimes the sky rains gasoline instead of water and you have to be strong enough and ignore the urge to set yourself on fire.
10. I will be okay someday. Bad things happen for no reason sometimes and things end but that shouldn’t mean you should come to an end too. The ocean will always have waves; I just have to learn to swim through them for a bit longer.
11. The stretch marks I left on my mother from birth will not be another suicide letter I never finished.
Oliver Nolau (via cybergirlfriend)
You're an absolutely stunning girl. Wow.
Awe, thank you =]
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
I will add that if you only do questions, then it can be really hard for me to trust you with emotional stuff. Don’t start with questions, either. Link sharing is a really the best bet, personally, because that tells me:
- You want to initiate conversation
- You saw something that reminded you of me
- You cared enough to show it to me
I do like being asked questions, but those can be extremely draining for me and don’t be surprised if I say no. Why I prefer talking about things that reminded you of me, because that I can talk about without feeling obliged to answer past “thanks”